Unattended traumatic experiences fester within you as time passes. It becomes a parasite that eats away at your soul, nagging you and causing you to fall down. Trauma, if left unaddressed, becomes an evil that promises nothing but a severe decline. Your days are spent in agony, reliving every moment in its entirety.
Eventually, this becomes a vicious cycle that hinders your progress and your chance of becoming better. As scary as it sounds, you need to challenge your trauma to live the life you were destined to live. The first step in itself asks for immense strength. But once you have decided to venture on, the tip is to take things slow and give yourself room to improve.
Face the trauma
The first and most challenging step in countering your trauma is to face it. Face and accept what happened. It is painful, undoubtedly, but the result afterward ensures contentment and a sense of achievement. You do not have to face that looming trauma in its entirety. Instead, a healthier alternative would be to take things slow and give yourself room to prosper.
Facing the trauma leads you to come to terms with the event you have likely subconsciously blocked. However, one needs to understand the vitality of countering that trauma. You cannot be expected to simply accept what happened; you have to learn to let that event go, to acknowledge it with hopes of growing.
Trauma cannot be categorized into one box, and it takes a lot of trials before you finally overcome it. You might even have more than one traumatic experience holding you back. You can fall in the process of enduring it, but the urge to move forward should remain. Tell yourself, “Is this trauma worth reliving every day for the rest of my life?”
Instead of going through that trauma every single day, go through it one day at a time, hoping to shatter that evil grin off its face.
Isolation is not the answer.
Most of the time, when we feel an event’s weight on our shoulders, we tend to find solace in isolation. It sounds good to block the world and be alone with your own thoughts; it’s practically an innate response now. In the face of adversity, you want to run away, but that is exactly where the issue arises. Isolation is not the answer as the trauma that you want to overcome will instead grow.
Interacting with others, investing your time to know others, and surrounding yourself with positive energy can be a great force. Isolation causes you to lose sight of yourself and your goals and gives rise to a myriad of what-ifs. Your negative thoughts will grow and only falter your progress once you confine yourself.
Ask yourself this question: Whenever you have isolated yourself from the world and endured those thoughts alone, do they bring out a fruitful result?
Make a routine
As cliche as it sounds, a routine makes everything much more worth it. What needs to be done, how it should be done, and when it is supposed to occur are all under your control. When you plan your routine, you solely rely on your work and your sleep and can even do much more than that. You become accustomed to a routine that helps you carry out your daily chores.
Sleeping and waking up on time are absolutely mandatory. You cannot expect to go through the day with 3 hours of sleep or start your day late. As much as we like to stay up late at night, a good routine helps prioritize our work and makes us more productive. You can accomplish and complete more tasks in the morning than at night.
When challenging your trauma, you need to be patient. As humans, we sometimes ask for instant results and solutions, and when we don’t get them, we lose our ground. “Your trauma needs time, too!” is a mantra you need to invest in and keep replaying in your mind. You need to believe in your progress.
Patience is a complex trait to develop. However, if you want to become better and challenge that trauma that has been nagging you daily, you need to build this trait within you. A little bit of patience can take you a long way.